The basics of BDSM sex
BDSM dating is more than you can imagine
Often the acronym BDSM conjures up images of heavily made up ladies in a cat woman's outfit, cracking a whip and inflicting pain on her slave, but for those who really know about how BDSM
works are indeed aware of the fact that BDSM
is far more than that. If you are abhor the idea of kink, you may not enjoy what we have to say to you, but if you are looking for ways and means to spice up your sex life and are not afraid to use BDSM methods
to do the same, we have good news for you! BDSM sex
is indeed great for your sex life, for it gives an adrenaline rush like no other and can really spice things up between you and your partner. If you are uninitiated in the world of BDSM
, here are some fantastic ideas you can use:
Ice Ice baby!
Want to start with something conventional? Start with a cube of ice, put it in between your lips, blindfold your parter and run it over the parts that excite him the most. This can be a great turn on for him or her.
Spank her silly
There is a huge number of spanking toys
that are inexpensive and good to use. If you do not want to spend a dime, use an ordinary wooden spoon or an ice scrapper made out of rubber. Rubber is always a better idea though as it does not sting as much as wood does and creates a thud instead that is often more exciting.
Brush it off
Brushes of all sorts can be great sex tools too for BDSM. Handcuffing or blindfolding
your partner and running a makeup brush or a shaving brush over the bare skin can be incredibly exciting. A toothbrush, that is a tad stiffer can be used for the nipples, thighs etc.
Some words of caution
While using sex toys and enjoying BDSM sex
can be an incredibly satisfying and exciting experience, here are some safety tips you should keep in mind:
There are many times where only one of the two of the partners is interested in BDSM sex
. If that is the case with you, do not be disappointed, but talk to your partner about the various possibilities of BDSM and explain to him or her why it may improve your sex life. The key, however, is never to pressure your partner into such acts as things can go horribly wrong!
Once he or she is agreeable to the idea of BDSM sex, you can choose to surprise him. Surprises can be fun, but stop immediately if you find that your partner is uncomfortable or hates what you are doing.
If you are planning to handcuff or tie your partner to the bedpost, make sure you have the key handy and have the bondage scissors ready to snap the bond open whenever he or she wants to get out of it.
Lastly, establish a stop signal between the two of you. Words like No
may not work because it may be a part of your role play when you are the submissive or dominant
, but a code word can be a signal that things must come to end immediately.
BDSM sex can be fun, but only be enjoyed if both partners are equally enjoying the experience.
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